Why Affluent Parents Put So Much Pressure on Their Kids – The Atlantic

One point of view – would agree that it applies to some parents with the big caveat in bold (albeit, of course, with the incredible advantages that come from having highly educated, well-off parents).

Excerpt:

On the surface, the rich kids seem to be thriving. They have cars, nice clothes, good grades, easy access to health care, and, on paper, excellent prospects. But many of them are not navigating adolescence successfully.

The rich middle- and high-school kids [Arizona State professor Suniya Luthar] and her collaborators have studied show higher rates of alcohol and drug abuse on average than poor kids, and much higher rates than the national norm. They report clinically significant depression or anxiety or delinquent behaviors at a rate two to three times the national average. Starting in seventh grade, the rich cohort includes just as many kids who display troubling levels of delinquency as the poor cohort, although the rule-breaking takes different forms. The poor kids, for example, fight and carry weapons more frequently, which Luthar explains as possibly self-protective. The rich kids, meanwhile, report higher levels of lying, cheating, and theft.

Family businesses are heritable; education, by contrast, is not. No matter how successful parents are, their kids have to earn their own way in (albeit, of course, with the incredible advantages that come from having highly educated, well-off parents). As sociologist Hilary Levey Friedman put it in an interview with Jessica Grose at Slate, “If you’re a doctor, lawyer, or MBA—you can’t pass those on to your kids.”

Source: Why Affluent Parents Put So Much Pressure on Their Kids – The Atlantic

Ten Things I Want My Gifted Daughter to Know – The Common Mom

Ten things to share with my gifted daughter before she turns 10.

  1. Gifted is just a label. It defines you no more than your eye color does. In the grand scheme of life no one cares about it. It’s what you do and how you treat others that matters.
  2. That gifted label does mean you’ve got potential. Oodles of potential. It doesn’t guarantee anything. So dream BIG. All that potential means you’ve got the stuff to achieve just about anything you want. But only you can realize that potential. I can help you. But the work is hard and you’re the one that has to do it. Dream BIG – the hard work is worth it.
  3. Grades matter – and they don’t. Sorry, life is full of gray areas and ambiguities. Start getting used to it. Grades and test scores are a way of demonstrating what you know. To get where you want to be, wherever that is, you’ll have to show you have the right to be there. Keep the long game in mind and that may mean working for good grades. Or not.
  4. Age doesn’t matter. I know you don’t remember the meltdown you had at age 4 when you discovered that the Monopoly game was for ages 8 and up and that meant you had to stop playing. Such a literal little girl! Age didn’t matter then. It didn’t matter when you skipped a grade. It didn’t matter when you were the youngest in the robotics class. It won’t matter until you want to drive, vote, or have a drink. Until then, forget it.
  5. Friends are important. Make friends with people who fill you with energy and happiness. Spend time with people who challenge you and encourage you to be your best self. Don’t worry about popularity or who’s in the “in” crowd. Popularity doesn’t last, I promise it doesn’t. Good friends are forever.
  6. Be kind. You can always be kind. Even when you don’t want to be (it’s ok, we all feel that way sometimes) just take a deep breath and choose kindness. It’ll pay off in ways you’ll never begin to imagine and you’ll feel better about yourself and the world. Trust me.
  7. Being smart is cool. Seriously, it is so freaking awesome. Don’t let anyone tell you differently or try and make you believe it’s not. If they do, they’re the ones with the problem. Walk away and don’t look back. They’re not worth your time.
  8. Know what else is cool? Confidence. I see it on your face more and more often as you grow up. It makes you more beautiful than you can imagine. Confidence + smarts + kindness = an unbeatable combination. Work it.
  9. Whatever is troubling you probably happened to someone else before. It’s probably happened to me. Maybe your dad. Or your aunt or grandma. Don’t keep it inside, we can and want to help. All burdens become lighter when shared.
  10. You have no bigger supporter than me, except maybe your dad. I’ve fought for you your entire life and will continue to do so – but only when I really need to. That may mean convincing the school librarian that you can check out books beyond your age range (see #4 above) or it may mean that I fight you on screen time.The goal is to teach you how to stand up and advocate for yourself. I want you to find your own voice so you can unabashedly follow your dreams. Your BIG dreams.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING

Doesn’t matter if you graduate from Harvard or flunk out of high school. I love you.

Doesn’t matter what your dress size is, what color your hair is or what you have pierced. I love you.

Doesn’t matter what you become or what you do. I love you.

 

Source: Ten Things I Want My Gifted Daughter to Know – The Common Mom

99 texting acronyms and phrases every parent should know

TEXTING ACRONYMS ABOUT THOSE PESKY PARENTS

AITR       Adult in the Room

303          Mom

M/POS    Mom/Parents over shoulder

PIR          Parent in Room

PAL         Parents are Listening

PAW       Parents are Watching

CD9         Parents around/Code 9

PA / PA911    Parent Alert

9                Parent Watching

99             Parent Gone

 

GENERAL TEXTING ACRONYMS BEYOND THE VERY BASICS

143          I love you

1432        I love you too

ATM        At The moment

gerd          Abbreviation for ermagerd (Oh my God)

GR8          Great

CMB         Call Me Back

CUNS       See You In School

F2F          Face to Face

FOAF       Friend Of A Friend

FML          F*** My Life

FTW          For The Win

GTG           Got to Go

GTFO       Get the F* Out

HAK        Hugs and Kisses

HMU       Hit Me Up

IKR         I Know, Right?

IDC          I Don’t Care

IDK         I don’t Know

ITA/D     I Totally Agree/Disagree

IRL         In real life

J/K         Just Kidding

KK          Okay

KWIM    Know what I mean?

L&R        Love and respect

mmk       Mmm…okay

MEGO     My Eyes are Glazing Over

MYT        Meet You There

NAGI       Not A Good Idea

NBD        No Big Deal

NGH       Not Gonna Happen

NMP        Not My Problem

NSFW      Not Safe for Work

NSFL       Not Safe for Life

NTIM       Not That It Matters

N00B      Newbie

OATUS   On a totally unrelated subject

O RLY    Oh, really?

P&C         Private and Confidential

PITA        Pain in the A**

REHI       Hi, again

RUOK      Are You OK?

QQ            Crying (often humorously)

SFSG       So Far So Good

SLT         Something Like That

SOL         Sh** Out of Luck

SUP        What’s up?

UOK        Are you okay?

4Q             F*** You

VCDA      Vaya Con Dios, Amigo

VSF         Very Sad Face

WDYM  What Do You Mean?

WFM     Works For Me

WRUD    What Are You Doing?

WTG        Way To Go!

W00T      Hooray!

WTH        What The Hell?

XOXOZZZ Hugs, kisses, sweet dreams

ZOMG       Oh my God

Source: 99 texting acronyms and phrases every parent should know